It is very common to see parents provide their kids with what they wish for and do as they want to. This is a negative practice that leads to huge consequences when the children enter adulthood.
Accumulating all that children ask for has adverse effects on them. To start with, children who are unconditionally loved by their parents tend to be more selfish. Being used with having everything they wish for, they develop big egos, do not care about others’ interests, have poor manners and thus have difficulties in socializing. Plus, children are also more vulnerable and unable to deal with disappointments, which makes them more breakable and easily develop mental problems, which was thoroughly researched by Dr. Grinker and published in the American Journal of Psychiatry in 2005.
There are more significant effects when the children grow up. Having difficult social integration as a kid, it is hard for the spoiled children to do well in the working environment, which requires an extensive range of communication skills, as in when interacting with the senior managers, colleagues or business partners. Furthermore, with weak mentality susceptible to distress, spoiled children are unable to deal with high-pressure work environments and struggle to adapt. For example, Paris Hilton had to go through series of unpleasant experiences in her twenties before getting back on track and became a successful business woman.
In conclusion, excessive pampering is a harmful practice that leaves major bad effects on children and consequences that last into adulthood. This, therefore, should be discouraged and replaced with a more proper parenting style.
Nguồn: DOL English